The INTP nerdy girl..

So we're in the realm of female INTPs and their geeky nature.

There are a lot of misconceptions about INTPs in general, mainly created and perpetuated by web users with little to no actual knowledge of how INTP minds function. They tend to call us robots, mean, cold,etc..

The thing about this prejudice is that it's almost always shared by those personalities that are naturally very emotional. 

Overly emotional people are nice and kind and warm and all that good stuff but they also tend to be extremely judgemental and pushy when it comes to people who are not like them. 

To put it simply, emotional types do not 'get' the rational ones. Our inability to expose and express feelings in public and in an 'extreme' way confuses and scares them. Hence the so called stereotypes about INTPs and INTJs being like 'unfeeling robots'. 

This is quite frankly both offensive and annoying. And it has to stop..because if rationals shouldn't shame emotional types about their overly emotional reactions..why can emotional types shame rationals for not being able to openly express their feelings??? Double standards much??

INTPs are not robots. We have feelings just as much as everyone else does. The difference in us, is that we do not openly express them. 

Yes we might be happy,depressed,anxious or excited about something..but NO we won't show you that by bursting to tears at the first emotional trigger or be all smileys and goofy like expressions and NO we won't sit with you for hours to discuss why we feel what we feel and what caused it or how you can help with it. 

In fact, we barely share our feelings even with our own family members. We might occasionally share some bits with our closest people but it's still not in the way other types share their feelings. For instance we may, in most cases, share our feelings with our people but only the positive/safe ones or will only reveal certain parts of them, parts that we feel safe and comfortable sharing with them.

So in most cases, INTP females, just like all INTPs, will naturally prefer to write their thoughts or even feelings down to some notepad or type them out to their little pc diary (I've done that many times), or use a specific code language for their real diary, so that nobody else will be able to peek into it if they try. (Also done that, I've actually used numerical code language to keep a real diary and can still do so if I want to have one). 

INTP females just like INTJ ones, are not your 'typical females'. We don't pay too much attention to details about us such as our make-up (something that is rarely used by INTP females anyway), our dress code or even hairstyles.

That doesn't mean that INTP females go around like freaks. Both I and a few other INTP females I've met have their own unique style. I usually go for the natural look for example and choose to wear geeky/nerdy/preppy clothes or casual/sporty. Basically I wear whatever I like, I don't have a limit but those are my favorite types of clothing and I wear them as much as I can. 

But I won't spend even 10 minutes of my life for make up or hairstyling. I won't bother with that stuff and I will rarely visit the hairdresser. If I want to cut off my hair I usually do it on my own or tell a family member to do it for me. 

INTP females also don't like typical conversation topics and chit chats about celebs, make up, clothes, gossip or even guys. 

Like the INTP males, we like talking about intriguying topics, books, movies, ideas and anything that might be interesting to us or a problem that needs solutions..basically anything that is exciting and stimulating for our brains because our brains and our minds are our basic sources of organising our lives. We spend hours upon hours just being in our heads, analyzing stuff, learning new things and coming up with strange new concepts. So anything that stimulates our brains in a positive way will be a perfect topic for us and will most likely engage us into the conversation for a long amount of time.

We tend to get toddler-like excited about our interests.

Parties, clubs, cliche posh dates and dances are a nightmare for us. 

Overly emotional situations and reactions make us very stressed and anxious. We can barely handle our own emotions, why do people seem to think we can handle theirs?

Touchy people are also annoying for us because we get cuddly and touchy only with those we really trust and love and with those we are very close to..not just with any 'friend' or peer. You have to be a lot more than that to make us reciprocate your touchy habits willingly. 

We love studying and learning new things..not because we are arrogant 'I know it all's' who want to impress older people or a teacher or anything..in fact, we are fully aware that we don't know everything, mainly because our learning process teaches us that no matter what we have learned so far, there's always much more to be learned.

So we never get too 'sure' about what we know, we always look for more, learn more, research for more. 

So don't be freaked our by the fact that some people actually like studying. We are not very good or disciplined when it comes to obligatory studies, which is why INTPs are phenomenically not very 'productive' with their school lessons and teachers usually seem to be like ''but he/she has so much potential..if only he/she wasn't so lazy/withdrawn/distracted''. I always got that during my school years. Every single teacher used to say that to my parents. I always tended to study a lot with things outside of the school's lessons but would only study for school during the last minute, procrastinating madly and avoiding boring lessons and tests. 

The main thing people need to understand about female INTPs, is that for them to be engaged into any sort of activity with others, it is imperative and unavoidable for others to first learn to accept our different and slightly 'odd' (compared to other females at least), personalities.

Unless you make a genuine effort to know us and accept us the way we are, without judging or trying to 'heal' us, like many people seem to do, we will never ever be able to trust and allow you to be in our circle. 

~A reader lives a thousand times before he dies. The man who never reads, lives only one.~